Apr 29, 2009

Regrets

I've been doing a lot of pondering lately, mainly being questions that begin with a "What if..." Questions I ask myself "If I had done something differently would my life be altered drastically now?" I guess it is some meloncholy coming out into a state of regret. Is having regrets a bad thing? I'm sure we all have them sooner or later, I guess I just thought that was something you don't get until you are old and looking back on your life. I am only 22 years old I didn't think I was old enough to have regrets...but I do. The problem with regrets are that no matter how regretful one may be it does not change the past. "If only" must be two of the saddest words in the world. I suppose I'll never know the answers to my "what if" questions; I'll never know how I would be living my life, "If only I had..." Alexander Graham Bell wisely said, "When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us." I also know that everything happens for a reason, already known by God. The hard times I may go through will either build character or will provide me with valuable life lessons. As a Christian I can rest assured that the Lord is in control of my life, both the good and the bad. I know that God can make straight the crooked paths and calm the seas of life. "Is there anything too hard for the Lord?" No there is not, whatever mistakes I have made, whatever regrets I may have, when it all boils down, God is still on the throne...

3 comments:

  1. You bet He is on the throne!! Wow this post has my curiosity running wild... I'm not old (seriously, I'm not) but I have found myself asking "What if" a handful of times especially over the past few years. I think it is just our nature to wonder what life would be like if we had made different decisions. I do, however, encourage you to very much limit time spent in regret. It will get you nowhere. I have made some sinful decisions in the past that at first seemed right up there as regrets but God turned the situations that have made my life more wonderful than I could ever imagine. Case in point, my husband, Maddy, and Max :-) If you are looking back at a sinful decision know that you can be completely forgiven by a merciful and gracious God. If you think you just made a bad decision... chalk it up to experience. You may be in a place to counsel someone in the exact same situation some day that will make the right decision because you went through the trial of the bad decision. God will use it either way. When I start to get the regret bug it helps me to think of a way it could have been 10 times worse :-) Heart you!

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  2. As a result of some of our recent conversations ;) I think I might know of at least some of the "regrets" you are thinking of..and if you ask me (not that it really matters what I think ;) ) but I do think that God has already used the things that have happened in your life to help you grow into the fine Christian lady you are! :) Also, I think you are a great friend and who knows if your life had taken a different path...we probably wouldnt' be the friends we are today (and that is something I can be thankful for)!! But anyhow, all this to say that I agree..God is in control..and who knows what the future hold?? ONlY HIM..and that is something to smile about! Love Ya Girl! Liz B.

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  3. Well Nicole, I have had some regrets of my own, but you were right when you said, "Everything happens for a reason, already known by God." All things work together for good (Rom. 8:28). We are like two-year olds. We cannot understand what our Father is doing. His ways are not our ways, His thoughts are far above our thoughts. The difference in understanding between God and us is much, much greater than the difference in understanding between a parent and a two-year old.

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